This challenge is further compounded if the break up was a particularly acrimonious one. Bearing this in mind I’d like to share a few tips with you that may help in winning your guy back, to help you get back into his arms with minimal fuss. Here’s my tips:
1/ One of the first things you need to do is to give both you and your boyfriend a little bit of space and a bit of time to think things over. Getting into the correct mind set before you try to get your man back is also essential. Phoning him, emailing him or texting him before getting into the correct frame of mind isn’t going to help you get him back, in fact it will probably worsen your chances.
Being in the right frame of mind helps you to avoid coming across as needy and desperate, it should allow you to come across as a more balanced person, putting your ex boyfriend at ease. Coming across as needy and desperate will only serve to push your ex boyfriend further away.
2/ Another strategy to help you get your guy back is to agree with him about the breakup, this may sound a contrary strategy, and it is. Using this reverse physcology will allow you to gain the upper hand, he’ll start to wonder if breaking up with you was a big mistake. With any luck this should get him thinking about meeting up with you to ‘talk things over’, he should start to miss being with you as he now realises he may be loosing you forever.
Reverse psychology is effective if used sparingly, don’t over do it and also realise that he may call your bluff and then you may both end up suffering. Use with caution.
3/ Thirdly you need to have a solid plan to deal with how you are going to get him back. Think about the things you will avoid saying to him (such as bringing up old wounds), plan on what you want to say to him (go through it in your mind), and also think about how much space you will give him (remember giving him too much time can be a bad thing also).
I’ve only covered a few things you should consider along with a few tips to help you win your guy back again. What ever you do tread carefully and don’t say or do anything in the heat of the moment that you may later regret. Use the tips you find here and else where and put together a positive plan and with a bit of luck you can have him back in your arms in no time at all.