Sometimes when we’re stressed or have other issues we’re dealing with we end up pushing our partner away, On occasions it could be one push to many. Sometimes the reason we’ve pushed a boyfriend away is because there were some shortcomings in the relationship, lack of real communication being just one reason. What ever the reason for pushing him away you’re reading this article because you want to get him back.
You need to get your tactics and strategy right here, if you make any wrong moves or if you say the wrong things, then you risk loosing him permanently. Play your cards right, and you can be back in his arms in no time.
Before we go on there’s one thing we need to stress again, and that’s do we really want him back? You need to think seriously about the reasons why you split up, remaining with someone because you can’t break-up with him or it’s what you’re used to is not a reason to stay together. If you’re still determined to get him back here’s some advice that may help.
First things first and that’s you need to give each other a bit of space as absence is a sure fire way to make a guy miss you. Once you’ve both had a bit of time to yourselves contact your boyfriend and arrange to meet in a place that you don’t usually frequent together. This means you can have an honest heart to heart with the minimal risk of being interrupted by well intentioned friends of yours or his.
Although what you talk about will depend on both of you as individuals there are generally a few things that you shouldn’t do if you want your ex back.
The first thing to avoid is blame. Pointing your finger at your ex boyfriend will rarely induce a positive reaction. It’s unlikely that you’ll make your ex feel guilty, he’ll more than likely feel awkward and may see your relationship as something he’d like to forget about, pushing him further away.
Some girls may skip the blame game, but instead go straight to the begging phase. While begging may work occasionally, generally men feel uncomfortable if a girls pleads to get back together again. Always keep your dignity, playing hard to get is a much better strategy than begging, although playing hard to get can have its limitations too.
When it comes to making any kind of contact with your ex boyfriend always do it yourself, don’t use friends or any third party. Your ex needs to see you as a confident self assured individual and not someone who lacks the courage to make your own moves.
One of the worst things that you can do to seem needy, desperate and altogether creepy is to stalk them. While a girl may quite like the chase, guys tend to be irritated when it’s them being followed around. Even if your ex boyfriend isn’t irritated by you stalking him it’s only going to make him realise that he can have you at the snap of his fingers giving him little reason to want to make any moves to get you back.
Using Male Psychology to Get Your Ex Back
Even if follow every essential step to win your boyfriend back, and you end up not getting back with him you owe it to yourself to remain dignified, you don’t want to do anything now that you’ll be ashamed of in the future.
In summary give him some time and keep your distance for a little while. Try not to be too emotional, he may regard this as neediness and it may push him away even more. Be honest to yourself and to him as to the reasons you first pushed him away so that if you do get back together you won’t make the same mistakes again.
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