It would be fair to say that if you’re reading this article you probably have your ex girlfriend on your mind, possibly wondering how on earth you can get her back. However, trying to get back with an ex partner is a challenging task.
After a breakup usually one or both partners feel pretty low and will be suffering from hurt feelings and rejection. This is a time for sensitivity, else you may end up making the situation even worse. Here are a few tips that can help you if you find yourself asking yourself “how do I get my girlfriend back”
A – Establish what the breakup was really about. Very often the last argument you had was just the straw that broke the camels back and the reason for the breakup can go back many months.
This is where you need to start, trying to work out where you went wrong. Be honest with yourself, think about what you could have dine to avoid the breakup and what you can do to repair the situation.
B – Just because you have split up with your girlfriend it doesn’t mean you have to stay at home moping around. Get out of the house and socialize, meet new people, go to new places.
Consider dating other girls, have fun, do what ever it takes to stop you stewing in your own juices. Dating other girls can be a double edged sword though, as it could make your ex jealous to the point that she begs you back, then again she could see it as a sign of ultimate betrayal. Only you know how your ex girlfriend will react, tread carefully.
C – If you were primarily at fault and your behaviour was the reason for the split then you need to communicate this to your ex girlfriend and express how sorry you were for being so stupid and thoughtless.
D – Let your ex girlfriend see that you can have a perfectly happy life without her, don’t rub her nose in it, but let her realise that you are capable of moving on if you have to.
If your ex girlfriend perceives that you’re happy and balanced you drastically improve your chances of getting her back, compared to her seeing you as a depressive, dishevelled and needy ex partner. Although you want her to think that you’re quite ready to move on, don’t forget to let her know that you still have feelings for her. This will let her know that you are mature and definitely still a catch.
E – Ultimately you need to develop a solid friendship with your ex. Regaining her trust is a by-product of working on your friendship, be sincere and be there for her when she needs you. Now could be a good time, in a casual sort of way, to ask her about the breakup. Find out what happened from her perspective, ash her how it made her feel.
She may end up telling you the split was meant to be, or she may confess that she thinks the split was a major mistake. The benefit of waiting a bit before asking her these questions is that you have a better chance of getting an objective answer, with less raw emotions and mind games thrown into the equation.
There’s more to winning your girlfriend back than this article can cover, but it forms a good foundation for rebuilding a relationship. Just remember to be true to your ex girlfriend and true to yourself.
