If you’ve just suffered a breakup you may want to get your ex back more than anything in the world. Wouldn’t it be nice though if you could actually get your ex to want you back instead? Of course if you’ve already been pleading with your ex to take you back and acting very needy you’ve probably all ready realised that this type of approach just doesn’t work. At least not in the long run.
Grinding your partner down so that they feel they have no option but to agree to give it another go will only end in tears, with your relationship hitting the rocks again in a matter of weeks, maybe even sooner. What are the reasons for this strategy failing?
This will fail as you didn’t resolve any of the problems you two have faced before giving it another go. The first thing you need to do is give yourselves some space and think of how the relationship came to a halt and what were the causes.
Very often the last fight or disagreement you had was a culmination of underlying issues rather than a big deal in itself. In order to go forward you need to be frank about any of your shortcomings and be ready to make any healthy changes to become a more rounded partner.
Knowing there was a problem in the relationship is a good start, although to have any meaningful impact you need to take action and resolve these problems effectively. You have to be very honest with yourself, are you really ready to make the changes to become a better partner. If you are ready to make the changes necessary to yourself, to allow your ex to want you back, your relationship stands a good chance of becoming permanent again.
Showing your ex how hard you’re willing to work and how committed you are to do what’s needed to fix any problems in the relationship will certainly get their attention and will cast you in a positive light. Remember though you have to be sincere at working on your shortcomings and only when you believe you’ve made significant headway should you consider contacting your ex partner.
It’s always better to demonstrate the things you have done to resolve your relationship issues rather than simply talking to your ex about all the things you are going to do if they’ll get back with you. Remember, talk can be cheap, show them you mean it by your actions.
Really making an effort to change your negative ways can have a dramatic effect on your ex, and done correctly gives you the chance of them being the one that wants you back.