When you go through a breakup the pain can seem bottomless. Most people will agree that at the time a breakup can be very hard to deal with and can even make you physically ill. You can also end up feeling lost, confused and depressed especially if the breakup came out of the blue. This is a natural reaction and is a process we must go through regardless of whether we get back together or not.
All this can seem a bit gloomy, so you may want to know if you can get him back and banish those feelings of loss and depression. Well maybe, following the tips below can help Allow him to take the lead.
Don’t try to push him into accepting what you want. This could end up making him push further away from you. You need him to be in the frame of mind to want you back. This is where you need to be your most appealing, looking your best and acting in a charming manner. Use seduction to draw him to you instead of asking like a needy basket case. Men love the chase, don’t make yourself too available, think of yourself as a prize that he would be delighted to win.
It’s no mystery that men love to achieve and conquer, it’s hard wired into them. Men love to accomplish things. However, if the challenge is too easy they will quickly lose interest. Knowing this can play in your favour and allow you to use this information to your advantage. Let him make the running when it comes to rekindling the relationship. This sounds easier said than done, and it is. Perseverance is the key. No man wants to be with a miserable girl, it’s no fun. Be independent and radiate a confident and happy persona.
Do not stalk him, this will freak him out and push him away… fast. Most men do not like needy or clingy girls as they can find it a drag. When you happen to talk to him make sure you don’t come across as needy or desperate, despite the fact that’s exactly how you may be feeling. You need to turn your attention to yourself.
After a breakup it’s easy to let yourself go due to the trauma and depression that this event can bring. Maintain your best appearance. For a start this is bound to make you feel better, compared to letting your appearance drop. It also shows you in your best light, something hopefully your ex will pick up on. Other people such as his friends will also notice how great you look and this can filter back to your ex. A guys friends hold a powerful influence over him, so their opinion counts. Anything your ex hears from his friends about you needs to be favourable. Be self-assured and confident.
Men find this very alluring. Using a bit of love logic, if he was your boyfriend before, then try being that same girl that he originally fell for. Things like smells, music and symbols can be potent memory triggers. Is there a perfume you have that he really likes or a piece of music that harks back to a time that was wonderful for you both. You need to pull all the tricks out of the bag if you want to get him back. Anything worth having will usually take a bit of effort and it’s no different with valued relationships.
If you still feel the relationship is worth saving then go for it, not to do so may mean regrets for years to come. Winning your guy back and mending a broken relationship is possible, and done correctly can lead to an even more rewarding relationship with each of you having a deeper understanding about what makes each other tick.